I know a few people who've told me they have a mental illness. I haven't actually dug into their experience of it - how they live with it on a day to day basis, I'm just aware they deal with it. Should I ask questions? Will it make them snap? What do I say?
Depression is possibly the first thing many people think of when they think "Mental Illness" and it doesn't take too much reading or talking to uncover the wide range of opinions about it. The one that must be most stunning is, "Snap out of it!" What if I told someone with Cancer or a torn ligament to shake it off - if they didn't hit me or yell at me they'd surely think I was the crazy one.
I'm guessing plain old ignorance is a large part to blame for attitudes that are off base. Is it fair to heap all the blame on Ignorance though? Is there something a little more sinister hiding in it's shadow? What about Stigma? It not only keeps the ones with mental illness in the shadow, in many cases it also keeps friends & family from even wanting to find out. Why?
I read a book a while ago, not too many pictures. The writer talked about how so many of us are careful who we associate with because we don't want anyone or anything to affect our social standing in a negative way. We want the people we value (ie good looking or smart or rich) to value us...it's all about us and we're
not letting any negative stigma push us down the social ladder.
What if we could affect the Stigma monster? What if we could shrink it with a magical ray gun and make it so small that it didn't matter. I don't expect we'll ever get rid of Stigma, just like we'll never get rid of ignorance or people leaving their left blinker light on long after they've turned the corner but we can shrink it. We can chose to care about real people with real problems and when we care for someone else more than ourselves, great things can happen.
We won't wake up every morning with flowers in bloom but Stigma will matter less to us and so have less impact on those around us. Really, we'd be freeing ourselves just as much as the the who is Stigmatized. How cool is that?
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